It’s not all about money, honey

Kabayan,

Noong una kong nabasa ang ginawang article ni misis (read here), ang sabi ko normal lang yan para sa isang babae na magsabi nang saloobin o kung ano ang nasa isipan niya o kung ano yung nararamdaman niya – kasi babae kaya normal lang.

Pero hindi nagtagal sa paulet-ulet kong pagbasa unti-unting pumapasok sa isipan ko kung ano ba ang ibig niyang tukuyin…Ganun ba talaga ako o kaming mga lalake? Kailangan ba talaga paulet-ulet para maintindihan ang ibig sabihin ng mga babae?

Unang pumasok sa isipan ko ay simple lang – uuwi din ako subalit pakiramdam ko may kulang at nahanap ko ang pagkukulang na iyon sa ginawa niyang article – Punong puno nang pag-asa para sa aming dalawa at sa aming pamilya. Hindi nakakapagtaka kung baket tinatawag na “Ang nanay ay siyang ilaw ng tahanan”

…Pinaalala niya sa akin na may naghihintay sa akin sa Pilipinas at may mga bagay na dapat kaming dalawa ang dapat gumagawa…

Our purpose of working abroad…

We decided that I work abroad for practical main reason – meet the demand of increasing cost of living. We can include that working abroad is a practical and fastest way of seeking a brighter future for your family. This is because of super-duper significant higher salary than the salary in the Philippines.

Along the way, may mga pagsubok…

Sa aking pagtratrabaho na apat na taon dito sa ibang bansa, ang totoo niyan – mahirap bitawan ang trabaho dito lalo na kapag naiisip ko na malaki ang mawawala at sa pagiging dapat good provider ako…

On emotional side:

  1. Naiinggit ako sa mga buo ang pamilya dito – kasi kung kinakaya nila dito sa tingin ko kaya din namin yun nga lang iba ang pamumuhay dito. Simple lang naman talaga buhay abroad  – naging simple dahil sa madaling sabi wala ka ding naman gagawing iba maliban sa bahay at trabaho umiikot ang buhay ng karamihan sa OFW
  2. May kirot sa damdamin ko kapag nakakarinig ako nang isang bata na tinatawag ang daddy nia ng “Daddy”.

Ang mga dahilan na yan ang pagkatao ko, habang andito ako… Diyan umiikot ang pagkatao ko bago ko mabasa ang article na ginawa ni misis…

As a result:

  1. My wife and I have different perspectives…
  2. Hindi ko namamalayan mahina na pala ako sa relationship namin…
  3. Naiintindihan ko mga sinasabi niya pero hindi ko maramdaman ang saloobin ni misis – para bang hindi ako makakonek sa puso niya
  4. I was empty on everything – Life, Relationship, and God’s Love – so the big problem is me.

What happened next?

Kilala ko ang sarili ko at hindi ako makakapag-isip nang maayus kapag hindi malinis ang isip ko… Kailangan may peace of mind…

Kaya nangarap muna muli – kung ano ang nakikita ko para sa pamilya ko…

These are few of my dreams that I want to share with you:

  1. My dream is to have a happy family bonded by God’s love, faith, understanding, and care.It’s not all about money, honey
  2. A family with 3-4 kids who are smart and wise decision maker.
  3. I want to go home every day expecting someone is waiting me home.
  4. I want to be the best husband, best daddy, best friend, and to give the best to the world.
  5. I want to live in the Philippines with my family. I don’t want to migrate elsewhere because this is where my home is.
  6. I want to give a better future for my family and doing this together with my wife…
  7. I want to be with my wife…

Did you get my point? As an OFW, your pocket might not be empty but somehow you might be empty inside on different aspects of your life…

Then it started to clear my mind….I can see my inner purpose of working abroad. Above list are my personal dreams for my family and I just can’t imagine how big the will of fire to go home after our dreams reconnected…

Then I realized that above dreams are my reasons why I want to go back home to the Philippines.

Buti na lang…

  • We are already applying the five year plan throughout my stay here abroad and we were able to manage our long distance relationship…
  • I let myself to be connected again… So, I started to rewind everything from the day I saw her, our various travel trips, our wedding, our long distance relationship, and everything about us…
  • I accepted the fact that I was so stupid and was pre-occupied by the goals, things, homesickness and keep pretending that everything is fine until such time na halos malayo na pala ako sa relasyon naming – the most stupid things I did…

In short, I fall in love again with my wife…

And thank God, we did it!!!

I am back… We are back… Good thing, i hold her and our plans tightly… We are on the fourth year of our plan… One more year, I’ll be home as planned…

Bilang isang tatay, mahirap sa akin na hindi ko sila mabigyan ng magandang buhay…. Subalit dahil sa tulong nang aking misis at nang aming five year plan, na-maximize namin kung anong meron kami at mali pala ako na ang pagiging OFW ang tamang solution bagkus temporary solution lang pala ang pagiging OFW…dahil hindi magtatagal makakauwi na ako kasama ang binuo naming escape plan for being an OFW…

 

Regards,

The Cristobal

PS. You too can go back home in no time – just create a good escape plan with your misis, mister, partner, o kapamilya. Good news… We want to share our five year secret formula to you… This is our escape plan…You might be interested to know: DISCOVER THE FIVE YEAR PLAN OF AN OFW

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